|Boom as a Toddler|
i am a private person.
Here is how you will know my family: MyGuy, Boom (for Boomerang Kid), and Max (for Maximum Smile). Not exactly full openness, but protects their privacy. Two of them have webpresences, and both have public and private personae. Max has confidential school stuff, which is, in this computer age, no doubt stored online.
What is the difference between confidential and private? Theoretically, the two words should mean the same. i can tell my story, but not theirs. Our stories are very much interwoven, but they must tell their own stories.
i care passionately about education, but find i can only speak in generalities. The school's story, you see, is not mine to tell. i don't have enough behind the scenes details. My son's education is vital to me, but i would be speaking from not knowledge if i tried to tell what's happening.
There's a word for what i do if i tell your story without you, and it's not pretty. i can come along side you as you tell your story. That's called advocacy, much nicer than gossip, and it tends to be more accurate too.
But confidentiality bothers me a little. Though the two words are theoretically the same, confidentiality often reads as "I'm protecting me while hiding behind protecting this other person." That may not be the intent, but it comes off that way.
You may think i'm hiding something too. That's your right. i would say much more if i knew you. As it is, i want to share, but feel bound.