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Our Court DateOn the appointed afternoon, the five of us, MyGuy, Nicole Goodson the lawyer, our friend D____, and me with Max, met in the City County Building.
After several years, my memory is a little hazy of some details. There was some waiting time in a different room. Nicole was great at walking us through what we should expect.
A surprisewas that the city provided someone to sit with us, looking after Max's interests. Because unfortunately parents don't always. She mostly just sat there in our case, but i suppose in other situations she would be more active.
At the given time, we all moved into the courtroom. The judge entered. He had some questions to ask, and we answered. It was relatively painless, in one sense.
On the other hand
Bad AttitudeThat was actually the wrong attitude for me to take. It is a scary thing to have our rights of self-determination taken from us. Having Max present is our government's way of protecting us, of protecting Max, from possibly unscrupulous parents taking advantage of him.
Sometimes making the humongous, idiotic mistakes parents want to protect us from can be the making of us. Sometimes parents do want to take guardianship to keep control of a kid's - or an elder's - finances.
Well, MyGuy and i knew we weren't such parents. Lawyer Nicole felt satisfied, from her interviews of us, that we weren't.
Nevertheless, that was the situation, and i needed to deal with it.
MyGuy, lawyer Nicole, and i were going to need to be involved in the legalities of the court procedings. Usually dealing with Max would fall to me, and i needed this to not happen.
i don't remember who proposed this. My solution was
When a kid turns 18, he is considered to be of age, and suddenly fully responsible for all consequences of his actions.
But what about our kids with special needs? The ones who, because of neural or mental impairments, will say "yes" because they don't understand, or because they simply think you want them to?
It worked well enough as long as i only opened the account at home, where the computers were only seen by family and maintained by the Serious Pro (MyGuy), who says
After reading Maria Sutton's excellent book earlier this year, i asked our library to order a copy.
i just received an email that they did. It is on their shelves, ready for me to pick up my "hold." i never placed a hold on it, but i do know the rules about holds, so i will check it out this weekend!
And soon thereafter, it will be available for anyone in Indianapolis to enjoy.
From the occasional series ~~~
Lois's story is told in only two verses, yet it is one with which many of us can identify. We know her in her roles as mother and grandmother.
How many of us tend to see ourselves in terms of those hearts walking around outside our bodies, also known as our children?
It takes a few seconds to read either of these verses, and realize that Lois was a woman of great faith, who passed on her faith to her child and grandchild. Could Lois have possibly known when Eunice married a Greek man, worshipper of Zeus and Mercury, that her grandchild would leave such a testimony? Even if she did realize the possibility, she would have understood that Eunice's role in raising this child would be harder than if she had married within her own faith.
And no doubt Lois was right there, faithfully praying and helping. Perhaps, as we women do, she was getting underfoot a bit in the younger family's household.
Come, you children, listen to me; I will teach you the fear of the LORD. Psalm 34:11NASB
Lois was a believer, but it must have broken her heart when her daughter married an unbeliever. Yet her grandson is remembered for his Christian faith, "which dwelt first in your grandmother Lois and in your mother Eunice. . . " II Timothy 1:5
Sometimes i can be easily discouraged from doing something. But not when i'm passionate about the thing.
i guess i've always been this way.
Of course, you don't always come up winners. The Europe scrapbook has a piece of pattern paper to show the shot i attempted from the top of the Empire State Building. At night. But you can't get what you need if you don't try.. .
|i wanted to capture the amazing fumerole|
AND read the words on the sign.
It didn't look possible, but i tried anyway.
|Can you read it?|
You may need to click on the photo to enlarge.
Ask for what you want anyway, even when "the rules" say don't.
|Swiss-Italian Border, 1976|
shot with Kodak Instamatic
|This is the shot my friends said|
would be a waste of film:
The reflection of the above view,
from a plate glass window.
This weekend i attended the Indiana PTA state convention.
There was so much worthwhile, and fun, going on.
"Lady Gaga" came to promote PTA.
|The shirts say, "Real Men Join PTA".|
Our State Superintendent Tony Bennett joined us for more than a couple of minutes, introducing the Parent Pledge Initiative. Our state PTA President Barry Jones and Tarik Glenn signed large copies before us all.
i couldn't begin to list all the help i got uniquely suited to me and our unit.
Here, however, i want to spotlight a brief film shown Saturday night. Take a look.
The Lunch Date
The Vase/Face IllusionYou've seen this illusion before. Are you looking at two faces in profile, or is it a stemmed glass?
The Life Correlation
Reflections in Driveway Puddles
|To thank you for clicking,|
here's one of our iris as well.